The Complemented

I recently observed the trend in which people reject compliments.

I've got to see that people refuse compliments, not because they want to, but because they don't believe it, and I can draw the reasons out from two factors:

The Past and The People.

Now, let's break the former in bits, shall we...

Some persons have gone through what I call 'Fake Compliments'.. a mockery coated in sweet words to applaud someone, but at the length of that discussion, the real poisonous word comes out.

Let's take an everyday African discussion for example..

Ade:Wow, your dress is nice

Sarah:Oh really, thank you.. I got them from this stall

Ade:Lol, is that so.. no wonder

Sarah: No wonder what?

Ade: The colors don't really match, but they're good on you though.. I know you don't know a lot about fashion

Sarah: so are you now saying I don't look good in it again?

Ade: Not really

Here, Ade's words have quenched a light in Sarah's mind. First, you get a compliment, then the next thing that follows is criticism.. People even go as far as saying they were just joking with the compliment..

This Experience often times make people conclude too fast.. they no longer believe people will mean well for them....

The second is now the People..

Naturally, there are people who tend to shatter your expectations often. They would compliment and take it back. Most times, it's the so called friends that will say one or two things, making you feel you don't deserve an accolade.

Guess what... it's never enough reason not to appreciate compliments when they come.

You don't use one, two experiences to write off that goodness you get that makes you feel special.

People who fake giving you compliments are oftentimes lacking good compliments themselves..

So, learn to feed off on the good compliments, assimilate it, and even if they take it back.. Be blunt on your cuteness..

Compliment Given, Compliment Accepted!!

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